Love IS Amazing

I feel compelled to write this message to Sean's friends and fans. Although he did not pen the song, "Love is Amazing" was always one of my favorites. Maybe because it had such a positive message, or maybe because Sean swayed and smiled when he performed it. Whatever the reason, it plays in my head over and over.For me, love has been amazing. Of course, as Sean's Mom, I loved him with my heart and soul and thought he was amazing from the day he was born. I knew he was sweet and kind and basically, a gentle soul; although, he was every bit human to his family. We saw his weaknesses and knew his flaws. Sometimes, I was so worried and overcome with concern about them, I think I missed the effect Sean was having on his world.In almost 4 months, I have had so many messages from people, strangers really, trying to convey to me the kindness of Sean. I have become overwhelmed at times. Sonia Leigh inviting Glenn and me to Smith's Old Bar and quieting the crowd to dedicate the song she wrote in memory of Sean. Ray and Gabrielle Hangen putting us up in their home and sponsoring a wonderful day filled with love for Sean and his memory. Jon Liebman calling Glenn at least twice a week to make sure he's ok. Rachel traveling from Connecticut on a train for 14 hours to honor Sean, and sending me books to help the Fund's cause. Sarah Baker and Tom Hyslop volunteering to help with chronicling Sean. Kelli and Donald inviting me and Glenn to go out with them and Kelli sending me kind wishes all of the time. Melissa, someone who only met Sean once, communicating her concern for me and memory of Sean at least weekly. Marta, who has designed and maintains the Fund MySpace page among many, many other things, not to mention being my primary support for the first two months. Magic Fred calling Glenn to keep in touch. Melissa Bauer volunteering her time and talent. Julie planting a garden in his name and never forgetting to send me kind words, and too many others to mention. All of these people were infected with the magic of Sean so much so that they need to share it with me. His love and music affected them in a way that I never knew. These wonderful people have reached out to me and Glenn because of Sean. We never would have known them otherwise. You cannot know how much that touches me and honors me as Sean's Mom.So you see, Love is Amazing. Sean loved his music and those who loved it with him. I had no idea how much he reached out to others and how unselfish he really was. He never told anyone if he did something thoughtful or kind. It was just the way you were supposed to be. He didn't speak unkindly of others, even if they hurt him badly. He would wonder what he had done to provoke them or let them down. (He did tease and use a lot of satire, I must admit.) Of course, with me, it was a different story. I got to see the sad or angry or disappointed Sean. I was his Mom and I was supposed to see all of this (which, by the way, he informed me was the way it was supposed to be:)So, in this time of incalculable loss and sorrow, love brings me joy. It's just amazing. Sean has left me and Glenn with a cadre of people who are taking care of us. People we have never done anything for, just people Sean loved and who loved him. I wanted to let every single person who has ever taken the time to write to me and ask to be my friend know that I am honored to be your friend. I am blessed to have you in my life and thankful that Sean brought you to me. He would be so humbled and grateful to each of you.I cannot explain the loss of my son. How it has affected every member of our family and how it has left a gaping hole in our hearts. Sean was truly a character and there is no one to fill his space (although his nephew, Zach, is a character in a making. He thinks "Uncle Sean rocks and has cool clothes." With his blonde hair and brown eyes that twinkle with mischief, I remember the boy in Sean. It was always there.) Yet, I know that I am not alone in my suffering. So many of you have been willing to share your own struggles and heartaches. In many ways, MySpace has become my own counseling service. It seems that suffering is a common thread that is permanently woven into the fabric of our being once experienced. For many others, the loss of a loved one remains a lonely journey as they are forgotten by everyone but you and your family. I am lucky that Sean was my son (of course, I always felt that way. I would not have traded him for gold or my own health and told him so many times), and in being my son, he has given me the blessing of each of you.Love is Amazing.I wish all of you the love you have shared with me and the semblance of peace you have given me. I have an amazing son who had amazing friends. (Sean performing Love is Amazing is on Utube and was on his fund page)PS Sean would mourn the passing of Bernie Mac. I just needed to mention this because he loved his comedy. Sean loved comedy and often the more honest, direct and raw, the better. Of course, he did love silly comedy as well, such as Curb Your Enthusiasm. A large part of Sean's being was laughing and being ridiculous. Bernie Mac was, himself, too young to die. I am hoping that Sean and he meet in heaven and are laughing together. I think they would get along famously.